That's the Girl Barbara Got
A Memoir of Adoption, Identity, and the Truth No One Told Me
by Caro Evette Strother
What happens when the truth you were never meant to know begins to surface?
In That's the Girl Barbara Got, Caro Evette Strother shares a deeply personal memoir about growing up loved, protected, and grounded-yet quietly disconnected from the full truth of her identity. Raised by a devoted mother whose love never wavered, Caro learned early how family bonds can be strong even when silence lives at the center of the story.
As adulthood unfolds and long-buried questions rise to the surface, Caro begins a journey many adoptees know well: the search for truth, understanding, and self-definition. What she uncovers reshapes not only how she sees her past, but how she understands belonging, faith, and herself.
With honesty, reflection, and grace, this memoir explores the emotional complexity of adoption-holding gratitude and grief in the same breath, love and loss in the same story. It is a reminder that identity is not something we are simply given, but something we are sometimes called to reclaim.
This book is for readers who:
Are adult adoptees or connected to adoption
Are navigating questions of identity and belonging
Are drawn to memoirs about family, faith, and untold truths
Believe healing begins when we are finally allowed to name our story
Some stories are inherited. Others are uncovered. This is one woman's journey to finally speak the truth she lived with all along.
